Frenchified for Life!
Hello from Bordeaux, everyone!
Living in a country that is not your own is hard. Identity crisis hard.
Hello again, my name is Jenny and I am an immigrant.
When I first moved to the area, oh some eight years ago, I came armed with my Amer-I-CAN positive attitude and work ethic. At that time, I was overconfident for my personal mission to strive, survive, and thrive in the land of Oh la la. It's been a trying experience, but as long as I'm good to myself, all shall be good.
Today I’m talking tips, tools, and tricks to help you better blend in with the natives!
I recently had a video chat with my dear friend, Erma. She lives in Las Vegas, and recently started a new job. She is jolly, happy, and kind. She makes me want to be a better person.
During our conversations, she said: You're French. Or something to nature!
She saw that I went native.
Here are the tried and true tips that worked for me: Improvise, adapt, overcome.
I observed my fellow French citizens, and just copied their mannerisms. I dress like them, eat like them, speak like them, act like them. I do my best to speak French, and I'm polite. I find speaking the native tongue is essential, as are manners.
This has helped me adapt to different situations with positive results.
At the moment, I am currently taking French lessons to brush up on my vocabulary. By observing and learning daily, I can easily overcome obstacles that may arise.
I'm also a happy go lucky type of person. I do my best to remain neutral and calm, polite and positive. This is my state of being. Maybe you can adopt the same.
Even though I sound like the French, dress like the French, and no matter how much I may mimic the French, I am not French. I don't feel French.
In fact, most times I feel like an outsider, because I am, but that's what I love about it.
I bring a new perspective, a whiff of something different and delightful.
I hope I helped. Just be observant, calm, cool, and positive! Easy peasy! It's a step on the right path of living your best life.
Take care of yourselves and be cool!
How are you?!
Today's post is personal.
I'm inviting you to take a sneak peak inside my bag of tricks.
I'm a personal stylist and trainer. Everyone around me dresses better and loses weight. It's two of the billions of benefits you get when you hire me to help you.
I will share with you some of my secrets and show you what I carry with me everyday!
I carry a canvas tote bag that pulls double duty, as a purse and briefcase, and didn't cost me an arm and leg! I adore this bag, it is my go to purse and works for me. I bought during the July SOLDES (sales) for 11€ about five years ago. Best purchase ever. Versatile. Pragmatic. Classy. Comfortable.
The three staples are my wallet, my agenda/journal, and my make up bag.
Inside my wallet, I have my ID and cards, plus I try to keep 50€ cash on me at all times. I also carry a nice pen a friend gifted to me.
My agenda/journal is my lifeline. I'm a planner, I write down my appointments, coffee and lunch dates, and I usually write down what happened during the day. My agenda was also a gift, from one of my clients.
Also always with me, is my makeup bag. I keep mascara, two lipsticks, hand sanitizer, and a small vial of French perfume inside my witch themed pouch.
I also carry a flashlight, my keys, my bus and gym pass, tissues, and hand lotion.
I sometimes lug around my umbrella, a bottle of sparkling water, my notebook, paperwork, and when I need to go shopping, it doubles as my grocery bag!
I work as a personal stylist, and I often tell my clients the three most important pieces are one's under garments, they must be of quality, bras and panties, and a bag.
This is the foundation of building a stylish and quality wardrobe ensembles.
My clients are no nonsense type of people. They are serious and professional, and want their look to follow suit, but not at the expense of being perceived as stern, but rather comfortable, approachable, and classy.
I feel my tote bag hits all of these points.
If you are looking to update your wardrobe choices, I can help. But ask yourself, are you a serious, professional person who is willing to be coached? I not only want you to put your money where your mouth is, I want you to surrender to the two step process of a makeover overhaul.
I have a two step process. I first declutter and reuse existing wardrobe choices to make new outfits. Pictures are taken, accessories are chosen, bag is organized. It is during this time where we donate or throw out old clothes that do not match my clients fashion inspirations.
The second step is a shopping spree! I am paid for my time to accompany my clients to the shops to chose pieces that will enhance their wardrobe. Sometimes thousands of dollars are spent, sometimes only 50€! Just depends on my client's budget!
I really enjoy helping people feel better about how they look. I feel dressing well is a form of politeness and self respect.
We have to take care of ourselves, after all, no one else will. I want you to be healthy and happy. I want you to feel great, look fabulous, and exude positivity. And if putting on a outfit that makes you pop does the trick, then DO THE TRICK! And, I can help!
Have you ever thought of hiring a personal stylist? Think about it. Why or why not?
If you need help or have questions, I'm just an email away! Contact me, let's talk. It would be a pleasure.
I hope you have a nice day. Take care of yourselves.
My French Fiesta!
Hello my sweetie darlings! How are you?
Are you taking care of yourselves? Eating right? Exercising? YES, you better be! I want healthy happy readers, you hear me!
Whip up a healthy meal full of flavor and color, then go out for a walk to help with digestion! Easy peasy, Ron Weasley!
About me: I attempt to do the same, been eating a lot of sugar lately, but I cut back and have been reaching for safe snacks, like a pear or banana, that is both sweet and a safe choice. I do have to admit, ice cream and I have been cheating together lately. It's a love affair that I cannot resist. But, I must calm down, summer is approaching soon, and I have to be bikini ready.
I have been working out, I walk regularly, and have lifted weights a few times this week alone. I try to be active daily. I'm about to turn 45 year old, so maintenance is top priority.
My morning routine is as follows: I usually roll out of bed between 8 - 9am, sometimes I kiss my husband before opening the window shade. I then walk over to Cashew, curled up usually on the couch, and kiss her. Then coffee.
It's a tried and truly routine to get me in the right head space. I usually start work at 10 or 11 depending on the day. I like to have a stress free morning that gives me enough time to scroll through social media, drink my coffee with my morning cigarette (I'm so French!) take Cashew out for her morning business, feed her, take my morning shower, put my face on, get dressed, get organized (if I haven't done it the night before) and out the door I go!
During the week, I often book social engagements. One has to have friends, and maintaining relationships is essential for a happy life! I meet up for lunch or coffee, and sometimes a weekend getaway.
I recently spent some time with my sweet friend, Heather. She is Scottish, reminds me of my Mom, and like my Moms, she is a good cook.
She invited me out to her country home to relax and listen to the birds, watch movies, drink margaritas, gin and tonics, and pet her cats, while wearing a full length mink coat for warmth.
Yes, you read that right. I was draped in fur, feeling warm and luxurious. Her family was in the fur trade and business, it is one of several pieces she owns, and graciously allows me to wear. She uses them as blankets in the wintertime.
Her family were taxidermists as well, so she has some wild pieces displayed in her home, I think it's a leopard head. It's wonderful.
I love Heather. She's just cool, but strict. Her way is the way, and she has never steered me wrong, nor have I gotten lost. I feel safe with her. She accepts me, fabulous flaws and all.
The weekend went quickly, but not before learning something new! I learned to make TORTILLAS! For a Texican at heart, I was over the moon. Here I am in France, learning how to make flour tortillas from a Scottish woman. She showed me her Bread Bible, a thick cookbook for all things bread, and flour tortillas was listed!
Flour tortillas are time consuming, but easy to prepare and just four ingredients. You also have to just get in there too, mashing it all together to make the dough.
Our French fiesta was in full swing! Heather mixed the ingredients to make the tortillas, then I took over, while she made margaritas! My job was mixing the dough, roll out the tortillas and cook them. And I did it! I also made guacamole, and it was delish!
We ate to our heart's content and I didn't even need dessert. We ate well, drank well, and all was well.
I learned to make tortillas! They were quite tasty and airy! I did a good job, I am pleased with myself. I'm pleased because I attempt to do something new everyday, or to try something new. I feel it keeps me healthy.
As I mentioned, we ate well. Then watched Meet the Parents with Ben Stiller and Robert Deniro. We had a good time.
And you? I hope you can find the time to do something new. Make the time. It'll be good for you.
Take care and talk soon. Thank you for reading.
A Delicate Situation
Hello my darlings!
How are you? Good, I do hope!
Today's post is long one! So grab your drink and get comfortable, because I have a story to share, and I could use your advice.
My French life hasn't been La Vie en Rose recently, but I am attempting to remain classy and graceful.
I've been feeling especially uncomfortable due to a delicate situation that I will explain in detail, but before I do, I have a happy announcement to make!
I am pleased to announce CHOUCHOUTAGE MAISON, which roughly translates to House of The Pampered Pet.
I am entering a new phase of my life where I want to work with and be surrounded by animals. I am an animal lover! I have been the proud parent to dogs, cats, and rats. I gave them a wonderful and spoiled life, and it was reciprocated!
I have been wanting to start a pet business for a while now, 10 years, the idea first came to me when I lived in Las Vegas. My dream was to have a dog kiosk at a fancy outdoor market or mall, selling dog wares from clothes, leashes, collars, toys, and fancy dog treats. I would still love that, just one thing at a time.
When I lived in Las Vegas, I worked as a journalist for a local TV station, then transitioned into newsradio, doing traffic and news updates during the morning and afternoon drive times. I also had a side business, THE COMPLETE PACKAGE, where I worked as a personal stylist, something I continue doing to this day.
I have a variety of interests, hobbies, and different ways of profiting off of my talents and desires. Plus, I have the time since my husband and I of 11 years are childless.
CHOUCHOUTAGE MAISON is a pet sitting and training service. I mostly work with dogs and cats, but I wouldn't mind snakes, horses, rats, or hamsters! In fact, I'm open to all animals!
My services include cleaning out litter boxes to making sure food and water bowls are filled to walking your dog to teaching some basic commands.
I decided to set my prices as follows -
cat: 25€ per day
dog: 35€ per day
training: 45€ per hour
I have to admit, I put the cart before the horse, meaning I just went for it without setting up the proper paperwork to make it a official business. I plan on taking all the time necessary to make sure everything is on the up and up, no matter how long that takes. Actually, it's seems pretty simple, it may take an afternoon, but then again also weeks, because I would like to take a business class that city hall offers.
As I mentioned, I just went for it, creating my ads and placing them around my neighborhood and online.
I am pleased to report that I have recently landed my first client, and may have a second one lined up. This gives me great hope and confidence for the future!
I am so happy with my new business venture, I feel good when I just think about it, and I plan on smothering all of my paying clients in hugs and kisses!
And who knows, maybe one day, I'll have my fancy dog kiosk, it'll just be in France!
All is well that ends well. My delicate situation has found closure, but not before a month long back and forth where egos were bruised and foul mouthed language was used freely!
Here's the story:
I did the job of watching for cat, Mysha, for three days. Everything went off without a hitch.
Money was the aggravating factor. My client low balled me, perhaps because she is cheap or is having financial difficulties or both. I responded with a fairer rate that was competitive and just. She got upset.
Turns out, the cat developed eczema, most commonly caused by fleas. I don't have fleas, nor does my dog, we comb her frequently and placed her on a flea and tick treatment year long. She is an active dog, often going on nature hikes, and needs protection.
Mysha had to go to the vet for treatment, which caused my client more money and delayed payment to me by five weeks.
I am an understanding and tolerant person, and responded to her situation with empathy. I reduced the rate to what she originally proposed, to create a win-win situation. I finally received payment.
Maybe the situation would have been avoided all together if perhaps I wasn't so greedy. Oh well, lesson learned. Thank you, next.
So, what do you think? Should I just shut up and take what is offered, the first time around?
Hello darlings! How are you?
Today I am going to introduce you to some of my sweet friends, plus give you a sneak peak inside of how I live my life. Exciting stuff, right!
I'm back in the swing of things, work wise. I'm sticking to 'vacation mode' when it comes to organizing my schedule. I wrote about this in my previous post. It was about all the benefits of a vacation and how to flip it to make everyday a vacation day! I'm pleased to report that it is working for me! It's a process.
Sometimes, I like to pretend my life is a soap opera, filled with weird encounters, of course, it's my French reality, but I'm having a good time.
Good times are a plenty, with all of the experiences I seem to get caught up in. I have a mix of friends from different countries and experiences of their own, and it's beyond great when we get together and hang out
Recipe: Butternut Squash Soup
During the fall and winter months, we are making soup galore!
Here I made butternut squash soup which tastes like velvet love. It is so good and super easy to make.
Here's a recipe: 1 butternut squash - peel and dice into bite size pieces, place in pot to boil, fill up the water so it looks like it's chilling in a hot tub. Next add a bouillon cube, vegetable or chicken for taste. Boil until tender.
Allow to cool for 15 before you blend it into a velvety texture. Add salt, pepper, butter, cream to taste! And viola! Soup for the soul! I also top with parsley for color, but do what you please!
During the summer, I took a trip to Toulouse. I have a friend, who lives in the US,we also worked together in Las Vegas, anyhow, she was going to be in town for a wedding and invited me to tag along. First of all, I love weddings, I love visiting friends, I love traveling, and this trip to Toulouse combined all three, yipee!!
I stayed with a friend of the family for free, so the accommodations were five star in my book! His name is Rob, he's cool and has a James Bond vibe. In fact, James Bond is one of our favorite fictional hero, so we share that in common! He works with something to do with aviation, but for the life of me I can't tell you what he does other than talk about planes all day. We shared our daily frustrations about the French, and ended up playing video games and talking about Star Wars like the nerds we are. Good Times.
Rob and I met up at the pub, and that night, we met a diverse group of blokes from Germany, the Philippines, Ireland, Australia, England, of course, me, the American. It was a great night, we talked about food and our cultures, we smiled and laughed throughout the evening, regaling our tales with gusto. Afterwards, for allowing me to stay at his place for free for the weekend, I invited him out for steaks and fries fit for a King! The next night, I whipped up some surf and turf for dinner. I made shrimp scampi, which he slurpped the juice from off the plate! I found this a huge compliment, he was literally licking the plate clean, I felt like a Michelin starred chef. I wasn't grossed out by his piggish behavior, but rather delighted in it because he really liked my cooking. I love cooking and eating, I feel I excel well in these two fields, his act was confirmation.
Meet Tawanda. We use to work together in Las Vegas. She is now happily married with a daughter who has so much energy, she enrolled her in gymnastics. Still, it's not enough, despite the hours per week she spends in the gym, and she's like 10 years old.
Tawanda and I met up and lunch lakeside surrounded by the Pyrenees Mountains. Everything in France closes at 2pm for lunch, and we roll up late politely demanding to be served, which we were, but it was whatever the kitchen had leftovers. We both had a salad and drank our Champagne cocktails in comfort.
Afterwards, we walked around the lake before driving back to the wedding venue, a lovely castle in the center of small village. I was surrounded by Americans from all states, it was nice to hear my native tongue in the center of France
What is life without friends?!
Meet Tammy and Nico - they are my country connection. Yes, they live in the fabulous French countryside, craving out a quaint little niche in their own potion of France. I love going over there. Tammy is a wild amazing cook, Nico spoils me, we are warm, well watered and fed, and my every time I spend time with them, I fall in love with them more! Tammy is a close friend and I adore everything about her, she makes me laugh and we talk on the daily. Even though she lives out in the country, she makes frequent trips to the city where we lunch and enjoy each other's company.
I have clients who spoil me.
I teach English and work as a personal stylist, guide, and assistant.
One of my clients brought Rose Water home from Morocco for me.
I feel like Cleopatra each time I spritz it on!
I must admit, I love being spoiled. Who doesn't?!
Check out my city! I'm often out and about in the city, traveling across it weekly to make appointments to get paid. When I'm in work mode, I make the time to enjoy the city around me, I love people watching too, so two birds, one stone.
Saint Andre Cathedral. Isn't it grand? It is located in the heart of the city, and speaks for itself.
Alienor d'Aquitaine was married here. She later became Queen of England, lived until 80 years of age, and changed the game. She was bright, beautiful, and simply brilliant. She birthed Richard the Lionheart, where a statue is erected of him in front of the Houses of Parliament in London.
Have a good one.
It's how I live my life!
Wishing you Champagne dreams and Chocolatines in 2019!
Wishing you heaven in 2019!
As the clock struck midnight on New Year's Eve, I was cuddled up with my little family, in full party dress, on the couch! The Champagne had been popped a few hours earlier, and we rung in the new year with giggles, hugs, and kisses. It was nice.
We did have a plan to go out into the city to share a drink with the locals, but our oversized couch and heater won out. These inanimate objects seems to know what I like, and I like to be comfortable and warm.
Our Christmas was just as lovely, and comfortable! We overindulged and were overly spoiled, it was more than one could have wanted.
I hope your holidays were memorable and filled with the warmth and comfort!
Do you believe in making resolutions for the new year?
I guess you can say I do, I make them, but they are simply a continuation of what I been doing throughout the year. I plan on getting back into the gym, as summer bodies are made in the winter. I have to adhere to a stricter eating regime, as I did eat more than a lion's share of sweets and chocolates!
As you may or may not know, I used to be morbidly obese. I am now a healthy weight, in fact, I have lost 90 pounds, from my heaviest weight, which was 215 pounds.
I looked like an apple. Now, I look like an hourglass.
It was a process, and one that was achieved by making daily resolutions to be healthier. I worked hard to reap the benefits of a healthy lifestyle, but as I mentioned, it is a process of trial and error, and being consistent, that was how I was able to drop the weight.
Being healthy is a daily commitment, and one that should be discussed with a doctor. Because I am getting to be of a ripe age, shifts in my health have warranted the decision to be stricter of my self care regime.
I lost weight by adhering to the low-carb diet, and reading Dr. Atkins New Diet Revolution book. It is what worked for me, maybe it would work for you too?! Who knows, give it a go!
I wish you and yours all the very best in 2019. Be safe out there, and take care!
A tour of Bordeaux
Discovering the city is just a step away.
Recently I booked a fun tour that showed off all my city's hotspots, before settling down for a hot chai latte!
Plan on visiting France?! I highly recommend it, and while you at it, book me for a personalized tour.
You tell me what strikes your fancy, then I work my magic to enchant you! We will discover together what little secrets my city holds!
Contact me, and let's make it happen. It will be a pleasure.
Have a good one, and see you around!
A whirlwind tour of Place de la Victoire
Hey y'all! How you doing? Fancy, I hope.
Since you haven't visited me in Bordeaux, I figured I would bring Bordeaux to you!
Check out the video of Place de la Victoire. It's quite exotic. It has mixture of French, Egyptian, and turtles! Never you mind the killer track by Nicki Minaj in the background, I feel it provides more to the exotic ambiance.
I was coming home from the gym this particular evening, and thunderstorms were moving in on the city.
It was windy, and city litter danced it's way across my feet the entire evening. When I eventually made it home, it had already begun to rain. It was the kind of rain you'd expect on an autumn evening, but here we are still in the center of summer.
I was waiting for the tram to take me home, the video starts there, then does a 360 degree turn where you'll see the Aquitaine gate, then a 16 meter high helical obelisk.
The obelisk weighs in at more than 50 tons, and made up of six blocks of red Languedoc and bronze marble. At the base of that are two bronze turtles, adorned with bunches of grapes.
The video may not have captured that, but trust me it's there.
Guess you will have to come out for a visit to verify! I'd be happy to welcome you!
Place de la Victorie is a cool area, sometimes holding concerts or shows. Mostly I see vendors selling sunglasses, and other touristy things like purses and t-shirts. It's a busy place, always packed with people of all ages. It's a good place to people watch.
There are a lot of open terrace bars, restaurants, and cafes around, plus cool little thrift stores, beauty salons, cell phone and computer repair shops. Rue St. Catherine, one of the longest shopping pedestrian streets in Europe, ends at Place de la Victorie.
It has a cool vibe. I shall be traveling through there more, as my gym is located in this area. It's quite a trek, but I shall look at it as an excursion, and it'll be a pleasure.
After a summer filled with travel, laziness, and joy, I can only wish the same for you.
When was the last time you went on a proper vacation?
I recently read an article about how taking a mini vacation helps set your life right again.
From my experience, I can tell you I feel more in control despite things being out of my control. Allow me to explain.
I have adopted 'vacation mode' to the organization of my business life, and I can tell you, I'm being productive.
I'm relaxed, I feel happy to go on a 'work excursion,' as if I'm meeting old friends, best part, I'm getting paid for it! I have slowly started working again, I accepted two new clients, who are beyond charming and kind. Hence, work is a pleasure.
"But, with the sweet, comes the sour." Practical Magic.
I recently had a life annoyance, problem at the bank, and instead of being angry and losing sleep about it, I decided and adopted the attitude, everything will work out eventually. I also did what needed to be done to avoid being burnt, twice. Damn banks. It was a clerical error of timing, but who pays the fine? ME!
It's cool though, bosses do what they gotta do, even if they don't like or agree with it, it's just business. Hence, productiveness pays off, eventually.
Hence, the husband. That man gets my goat. Does anyone know where that expression come from? I should look that up.
Ugh. That man. What can I say? Other than, please pray for me! I need patience and more charm, please. Thanks!
Hence, go on a vacation! Not only does it improves mental health, heart health, reduces stress, and improves relationships... According to Forbes, the workplace benefits of employees taking vacation time include: higher productivity, stronger workplace morale, greater employee retention, and significant health benefits, listed above.
I went on one vacation last summer, of which, I am very grateful. This year, I have taken five vacations, because I deserve them.
My year was so jammed packed, and I felt overwhelmed more than I would have liked, so THIS YEAR, I have decided and have executed a new routine. I will make my exercise and eating routine a priority over business to see what the results are. This is huge for me because I feel I am battling the old expression: business before pleasure.
France is on a different timetable. The year really begins in September and ends in June, with July and August reserved for vacation. It's just like that.
I have decided to put pleasure before business. Since we already know the health benefits, plus Forbes lists the benefits of vacation for work place productivity, ummm, doesn't it just seem like a no-brainer?!
Why not? What could happen? Me.... having a banging body, clarity, and precision in my future?!! Me? Gotta stay positive and test the hypothesis, you know!
Taking a vacation is essential. Be bigger than your excuses and just travel, even if for a couple of days. Don't think, just do. Give yourself no choice. Go on.
During my vacation, I did have some negative feelings which cropped up: sadness, loss, anger, loneliness, and fear. But I'm glad it happened on vacation because I was able to leave those emotions in a place that was not my home. I feel if I was home and received the news of my beloved aunt's passing, my home would be the resting place of those emotions making my home heavier, and darker.
This year, I went to London, England. It was great! London showed me love, and I loved her right back.
Then I went to Lorient, in the northern region of France to visit with family.
We were there during Bastille Day, and watched the fireworks with the locals. We took a long seaside walk along the beach. It was here when I received the news of my aunt Aurora's passing. She would have liked Lorient, but I'm sure she would have said Corpus Christi, Texas was better. And, I would have agreed. Texas is my home state, and Tex-Mex food is unequivocally the best, ever. France has wine, but it's really American, look up phylloxera.
Then, I was off to Scotland for two weeks. (At first, I typed years. Hmmmm, Freudian slip/typo there?) I was in Edinburgh and Glasgow, and it was awesome. The people were so kind, and friendly, and open, and cool. Had Scottish whisky, ate haggis, went to the Highland Games, kayaked Loch Lomand, saw Mamma Mia, went shopping, and ate well! I could live there, despite the bipolar weather conditions, IT WAS COLD, but only for two years, tops.
The Man and I then jetted off to the French coast. We went to Lacanau, about a 45 minute drive from Bordeaux. We visited friends, chilled out in hammocks, went swimming, ate well, took in fresh air, and met new friends. It was just what the doctor ordered.
My final vacation will be headed to my country honky tonk for some rest and relaxation, pool side!
Then, back to the routine of putting pleasure before business to tackle the new year.
Before I leave you, I found some information on 'to get your goat.'
A commonly repeated story which purports to explain the phrase's origin is that goats were placed with racehorses to keep them calm. When ne'er-do-wells who wanted the horse to race badly removed it, that is, they 'got someone's goat', the horse became unsettled and ran badly. That's just the sort of tale that gets the folk etymology juices running. Let's just say that there's no evidence to support that story.
I wish you nothing but the very best, be fabulous, be positive, be you.
Thank you for reading.
Take care and until next time, safety first.
PS. Have you decided where you will go on vacation yet?
Today's post is about my summer vacation.
Read time: 5 minutes
How are you? Fantabulous, I hope!
Oufff, honey child, I've been here, there and over there.
This is the first time in a long time that I have truly enjoyed a vacation, just so happens I have five vacations planned for this summer to make up for lost time. And I deserve it!
I'm not going to lie, my summer has been both stress free and stressfully overwhelming. On a very personal note, I recently lost my beloved aunt, Aurora, which has left me feeling beyond sad, lonely and scared.
She passed away on July 14, while I was in Northern France visiting and vacationing with family. I received the call at 5am. It was brief, heavy interruption, that has since manifested itself in four different outbursts, complete with anger, fits of tears, feelings of hopelessness, and of being lost. I was quite distraught. But, I'm better now, I am pleased to say. Because I have been traveling around, visiting, and discovering new experiences within new places, meeting new people, and enjoying life.
I'm also exercising, have been making plans for the future, checking off items on my to-do list, and attempting to remain optimistic in a pessimistic world.
I feel happy and productive.
As I mentioned above, I've been places. Specifically, London, England - Lorient, France (Northern region) and Scotland - Edinburgh and Glasgow.
In a nutshell, it was great! I met new people, saw the sights, shopped, visited museums, walked everywhere, ate well, and soaked up the atmosphere, and that was just my London trip! Surprisingly, it never rained in London. It was clear blue skies and sunny.
It was so vast and tiring and so much to see, I feel I have to go back one more time to truly soak up more the big city flavor. I was only there for a week, but what a week! Check out your chicka, I'm going places!
'Ello England! Love London, yeah!
Then it was off to Northern France for a couple of days! We went to Lorient, a beautiful seaside village that was so charming, I was tickled pink. We visited family and ate well, we were spoiled and like the ocean, we just went with the flow. I enjoyed long walks along the beach, visited a church where I lit a candle for my beloved aunt, had a drink at a seaside terrace, and hung out with the locals to watch the fireworks for Bastille Day.
Scotland is magic!
Scotland was amazing. Different vibe, relaxed, fresh, friendly, and overwhelming. I was there for nine days. And it was cold. Almost 15 degrees cooler than Bordeaux, and windy, and rainy. Other than that, what a country! The people were beyond friendly and kind, and everything was nice, really, really nice! I highly recommend it!!
That's all for now, y'all! I hope to keep visiting new places and discovering new things! I wish the same for you! Just go, don't think, just do and see what happens! I did, and I'm feeling good.
See you on the flip side. Take care and travel.
Much love and respect,
People be trippin! Don't fall, y'all!
I hope you are taking care of yourself and feeling fine!
Today's post is acerbic. You've been warned.
First, let me be clear that I am grateful for this wonderful life. I am able to partake in this wonderful privilege of living overseas and having a different experience that is broadening my mindset. That said, there are some things that I just don't get. Such as: Why people are such nobheads?
With the vast amount of information and knowledge out there from your fellow humans, out in internet land, at the library, or your local café, I don't understand. Which is what leads people to be nobheads, not understanding mixed with laziness.
There I said it. Let that sink in.
First of all, EVERYBODY is busy. You are not special, you are not a delicate snowflake, you are not better than anyone else. Instead you are MORE than that. You are more than the color of your skin, more than the country you were born in, you are simply MORE because you are a human being.
Every human being wants to the same thing: love, food, joy, shelter, peace, safety, dignity, and happiness. Therefore, I don't understand modern society.
Honestly, with all the injustices in our world - starvation, homelessness, poverty - it makes me so very sad and so very angry how 'modern society' disrespects us on a daily basis, and we are forced to accept it. Why?
Why are our fellow human beings dying of starvation? Why are our fellow human beings without shelter? Why are our fellow human beings steeped in a cycle of poverty?
Anyone of us can be in the same situation at ANY given time, you are not exceptional, therefore one must not judge others. But we do! And it's fun, right?! But is it really?
French people are extremely judgemental, like most people I suppose, but having grown up in Texas, then in Las Vegas, where I was accustomed to seeing and interacting with a wonderful mix of cultures, I feel I am privileged to just simply know better, (Thanks Mom! Thanks Dad!) but I also feel I am intelligent enough to know that I don't know.
Hell yes, I am judgemental... as judgemental as the sky is blue, but hear and listen my fellow humans, I judge myself harsher than I would ever, ever judge anyone else, but I do judge.
As a former journalist and private investigator, I'm a silent observer. My favorite thing in the whole wide world is to people watch, it is so much more entertaining that any of the trash on the telly. I notice people's mannerisms, I notice people's movements, their awkwardness, their grace, their choice of dress and I attempt to figure out right there what their hobbies are or make up stories about their lives. The first thing I notice on anyone is their teeth. The second thing I notice is their shoes. It's the little details.
I know I am judgemental, and even though I care about you, I really don't. Big Mama has her own issues, well, more like volumes!
Again, I KNOW that I don't know.
I work as an educator in France, which is an eloquent way of saying, I get paid peanuts to make other people smarter in my native language.
Education is a funny thing, I find. Working as a former journalist in Las Vegas, I have met an array of professionals from other educators, plastic surgeons, massage therapists, rock stars, tennis pros, strippers, showgirls, and gamblers.
I love Las Vegas. I loved living there. I started my career there. I was happy there. I met my husband there. I was really happy there.
Texas is my home state, but Las Vegas is my home town. And now, France is my country.
I can't really tell anymore if I am happy or not. I feel numb, like a zombie, just going through the motions of the daily routine, waiting.... to die.
Ok, call me dramatic, but aren't we all? Lately, I have woken up asking Death to take me. I recently turned 44, EGAD, just last week in fact, which reminded me about an Asian superstition/Chinese numerology of the number four. It's a unlucky number, because the word four sounds like or is homophonous to the word DEATH.
I'm DOUBLE DOWN DEADLY, Y'ALL! Hey, DEATH - You know where I'm at, come get me, Girl! I'm ready! In fact, in Las Vegas, well, I can't remember honestly, there is NO 4th floor, or 44 or any 4 marked on the elevators at the hotels... it's called respecting others cultures... FOR MONEY, obviously. Hey... people gotta eat. People gotta feed their addictions. Why F it up for them?!!
France has a weird disassociation with money. It's a taboo subject, which I find DUMB, for obvious reasons. Like they don't know it takes money to live!!! Or why salaries do not augment with inflation. Bitch, PUH.LEESE! UGH... but that is another subject.
Listen, the goal of this blog is just to write about my observations, and about how funny/strange/bizarre/awesome we all are, but in a cute annoying way.
I truly believe everything comes down to education... but not in an academic sense, I say this because how society conditions us to value highly educated people... wait... wait... writing plainly - most of the highly educated people I have known (know) and have met are quiet frankly, DUMB. Poor smart dumb bastards. Not all, but most. And the majority are men. But that too is another subject!
I have NO problem speaking to people... I can talk to anyone about anything and everything. Call me a chatterbox, because I want to KNOW! I want to know how you think, what you feel, I want to know YOU! What do you like, what do you love?
More often than not, we ask people what they do for a living. Seriously?! How fucking cliche!!! First of all, and in the FAMOUS WORDS OF BEN FRANKLIN, "Mind your business!" I don't care about what YOU do for a living, I care about what YOU LOVE!! So, ask questions about that! Instead of asking: Hey, what do you do? ASK: What do you LIKE/LOVE to do.! Bitches be opening up like flowers!
Who doesn't like talking about their fandoms or what moment in their lives changed them.
Me? I love the simple things: eating well, drinking well, having a good time, and being fabulous! By the way, fabulous is a state of mind and an action, one must do fabulous things to be fabulous... besides life is too short to be anything but! So be fabulous, not a drag. Oh vey, y'all!
Like Tina Fey said in the movie Mean Girls... I am pusher! Sometimes I push people away. And that's ok, everybody has their own niches. It's not my intention to push people away, au contaire, I'm a LOVER! I love people, I love adventure, I love life. My love is pure, and you shall always have it, however one must love and accept themselves, just as they are and be truthful, so that they can give more. I harbor no bad feelings for anyone, nor do I hold grudges, in fact, my go to expression to myself and of course to others is: BYE BITCH! If you wanna go, then GO! If you wanna stay, then STAY! But don't be messing with the lives of others because you can, which sure, we are all guilty of that, but KNOW THIS, Karma be a coming for YOU!
Anyway, it's how I am feeling now. I hope you feel me.
Know you are loved, because you are lovable. Be kind to yourself and others, pet dogs and cats as much as you can, and be fabulous, my fellow friends.
Just be fabulous.
With love and respect,
Frenchified and JUDGEMENTAL for LIFE, yo!
FIX YOUR TEETH, BUY GOOD SHOES, EAT WELL, DRINK WELL, SLEEP WELL, DO WELL, and ALL SHALL BE WELL.
Word to your Mother. And Father!
Bonjour et Bienvenue!
Thank you for stopping by for a spell!
I am a 40-something year old American woman. Born in Texas, raised in Las Vegas!
Frenchified for Life
is a fabulous little lifestyle blog about truly embracing French life!
My intent is to simply inspire you to create something unique and beautiful in your everyday life. The French have this wonderful and annoying habit of seeing the world through rose colored glasses, might as well learn something from them!
That said, I lift my glass to you!
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