Having lived in France for more than a year, I have had my share of dining disasters.
And by disasters, I mean, I was THE disaster!
At the time, I didn't even realize it, sad, I know. However, as I reflect on my misbehavior,
I am full of embarrassment and guilt. And as a result, I haven't been invited back to their home. eek!
So what did I do?
I complained about the food.
According to the French, the previous statement has THREE MAJOR NON NONs!
I'll give you time to figure it out
First: The word I -- It's not about the guest, its about the host/tess!
Two: The word COMPLAINED --- I think that speaks for itself.
Three: The word FOOD -- food and France, go hand and hand, so it was a major insult.
I will relay the story so that you (and I) can learn from my mistake.
The host made a quiche, and according to the host, it was the first time they made it.
It was good, however, the eggs were soggy and runny, as in not cooked.
The outside was cooked, but not the interior.
Therefore, I pointed it out. BIG NON, NON!
What I should have done was kept my fat mouth shut and ate the quiche and worry about Salmonella and my possible death because of it later.
With that being said, today's French life lesson:
Dinner Guest Behavior
If you are lucky enough to be invited to a French home for dinner, here are some commandments to live by.
Many are common sense, however as stated in a previous post, knowledge is power, and these commandments are just good to know!
1. ALWAYS bring something to share: A bottle of wine, dessert, bread, etc.
Even if the host or hostess tells you not to bring anything, YOU STILL NEED TO BRING SOMETHING! You can also bring a gift, such as flowers, a plant, chocolates, etc. No, you don't need to bring diamonds (unless you want to come by my home!) However, I like to give gifts that are useful, so when they actually do use it, my gift will be something to remember me by! Other examples: soaps, if they have children, a gift for the kid. Also, a bone for the dog or a toy for the cat! It can be less than 5 bucks!
2. The hostess is QUEEN for the evening. You should do everything you can to help her, so that she can entertain other guests as well. Remember it is all about THE HOSTESS and not about you!
3. Dress up! Again, you are invited to dinner. You not only want to look good for yourself, but for your hostess as well.
4. If you don't like something, too bad!
Depending on how close you are with your host/hostess, you would probably tell them before the dinner of your lifestyle choices or allergies.
If you didn't, again too bad!
5. When being invited to a French home, always accept the invitation. ALWAYS!
6. Watch your language, drinking, and do NOT ever insult the food, the drink, the desert, the home, etc. EVER!
7. Relax and enjoy your evening!
Questions? Comments? I would love to hear your thoughts.
Thou shall not make a fool of thyself!
Later on in the week, I will repost an interview that was printed in a local newspaper last year. The article discusses French traditionalism, manners and expectations!
I learned a lot from the article, so check back soon!
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Frenchified for Life
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