Falling into Autumn. Finding self love and joy
How are you? Me, I'm just ok.
I am dealing with some personal difficulties that seems to have hit me all at once.
I have separated from my husband, I'm looking to change careers, while continuing to look for work, and I have moved. All of this within a space of three weeks. It's hard, and sometimes I get overwhelmed and start crying, but at the end of the day, I have to put on my big girl panties and try to make sense of the nonsense.
Living in France and getting to know a system I really don't understand has been trying, but with the help of friends, I am making my way through. I have no choice.
Some days, I just want to ball up and cry the day away, but I don't. I allow myself 20 minutes a day to feel the sadness, but no more, because honestly, I don't have the time!
I am trying to look for additional work, but I seem to come up empty handed so far. I am trying to make ever euro stretch, only buying food, and the occasional cigarettes and wine. I also haven't been sleeping well due to shoulder pain and my dog deciding her comfortable space is in the middle of the bed.
I am glad to have my little dog with me, she has saved me from loneliness and despair, as I have to take care of her. I know she takes care of me too, helping me heal my heart and smothering her in cuddles.
My heart is broken, but I'm not the only one who has suffered from this ailment, and that too shall pass. I am slowly starting to pick up the pieces and mend them back together. I get a lot of sleep, which has been interrupted by shoulder pain and heartache, and do what I have to do to get me to the next day.
I talk to my friends on the regular, and they are kind and patient with me, so thank the Gods for them.
Everyday, I make an effort to get dressed up and pretty for myself and my city, because you never know who I may meet or run into!
I am slowly starting to be happy again, I watch a lot of TV and stay in, (which makes me happy) I don't venture out too much unless it is for work or appointments. I am a homebody, taking care of Cashew and myself.
I am trying to quit smoking cigarettes, chewing gum instead, but it seems futile. Cigarette smoking is a disgusting habit, I KNOW, but I just can't help myself. Plus them fuckers are expensive! My mom says I can't eat cigarettes, but I do enjoy them.
I am cooking well for myself, eating as many tacos as my little heart desires! I made some butternut squash soup and plan on eating it all!
Fall weather is upon us and it's become crisp, cool and cloudy, the sun has been hiding, but I know it's there. My attitude is slowly changing, but who knows what kind of person these events will shape me into! Hopefully kinder and gentler and not bitter. I try to stay positive, but sadness has a way of creeping in. I'm ok! Just ok, but I will be better soon.
I am toying with the idea of changing careers, I want to be a real estate agent, helping expats buy property in my beautiful city. Wish me luck on that, I don't know what it entails but if I ask the right questions, I am sure I will get the right answers.
Send positive vibes my way, because I need them and know that I love you.
A letter from Marseille
Today's letter comes from the southeast region of France.
I'm so happy to find your blog.
It's been ten years here In Marseille and I can't get used to it. It's even getting worse. I hate living here. The mentality of people is awful. If I don't follow French rules I' m criticised all the time. People give me a hard time. I found a nice job but I need to be a hypocrite to stay here. I'm very depressed. I don't know what to do.
Can't say I blame the girl! What do you think she should do? I say breathe, take care of yourself, look fabulous, and pay it no mind!
Thank you for reading my blog!
Take care and until next time....
Out and about in Bordeaux!
When was your last vacation? Have you considered Bordeaux? You should.
Come visit me. If you love dogs, shopping, discovering new places, eating and drinking well, then Bordeaux is your next vacation stop off! I would love to spend time with you, as would my dog, Cashew!
I am a tour guide. I love showing people around my beautiful city telling stories and taking about history. Since Bordeaux is best by foot, it is a walking tour, stopping off on all the points of interest along the way.
I love to travel. I have been lucky enough to travel extensively around the United States, France, England, Scotland, and Spain.
My ideal vacation would be Italy, Venice probably, during Carnival! I would also like to visit Alaska, the last frontier!
I feel richer when I travel, not in a monetary sense, but fulfilled. I love to discover new places, foods, go shopping, go on a guided tour, visit museums and exhibitions. And you?
What do you like about traveling? When was your last vacation?
Here are a few photos of my beautiful city of Bordeaux, I am doing my best to get you to come and visit! Book me for a tour. My Frenchified Fun Tours are personalized to your likes and wishes. It would be a pleasure to host you.
Until then, take care and I look forward to meeting you soon! I'm only an email away!
The Benefits of Getting your Hair Done!
I spent my weekend at the salon. I spent a small fortune to look the same, but better. I had my grey hairs covered, a conditioning treatment, a head massage that was magical, a hair cut, a blow out and it was flat ironed. Of course, I'm not going to wash my hair for a few days, see how long I can get out of my new do!
Did you know going to the salon to get your hair done reduces stress and anxiety? It's true. It promotes relaxation too.
I must admit while getting my head massaged, I was pretty relaxed! It is a nice feeling to having someone tend to you, make you look more beautiful, and are professional at the same time. I came out of the salon feeling lighter and free, and all it took was a trip to the salon.
My hair is still smooth and silky, it almost looks like a wig, but I'm happy. It's important to take care of yourself, getting your hair done is a simple yet beneficial way to help you become your best self. That's all I want for you, for you to be the best you. So, get your hair cut and done and feel like a billion bucks!
Have a great day and take care of yourselves!
Frenchified for Life,
Trials and Tribulations
How's it going?
Today's post is more of a rant. Won't last long, I promise, but I just got to get it off my chest.
In the past, I have written many posts about living in France, most positive, but there are some days, I just want to backhand them right in the mouth. There is nothing more I can't stand than French people, talking. Does my head in!
I keep to myself most days. I don't like going out unless I have to.
Work is obligatory, and I like that because I'm telling French people what to do, training them, so to speak, on being better people. I've been successful.
Random French people are rude, annoying, stupid as shit, unaware, and selfish, which makes for a dangerous situations. Plus, one in five French people suffer from mental illness. It's a war zone out there. Seriously. I have been harassed several times on the streets, and been approached by scavengers wanting money or cigarettes. I have seen pedestrians hit by vans, I've seen fights break out, I've seen a man attack a woman on public transportation, I've seen a homeless man attack a passerby.
French people are miserable, (it's well documented, look it up!) but often too stupid to do anything about it. If they do get help, services are at capacity and often turn patients away, suffering. Poor bastards. And the cycle continues and cowardly acts, like the ones above, happen on the daily.
Despite these situations, I feel safe most days, I stay away from large crowds, only do what I have to, keep appointments, and go on nature hikes.
When dealing with random French people, I keep to myself and limit communication. I am polite and kind, but my time is precious and limited, therefore I am not wasting it talking to a moron possibly with a mental illness. No thank you! There have been times when I've engaged in bad behavior, just read my I hate France section. Now, I just ignore bad behavior or if I do engage, I just laugh in their face or tell them to shut up, and sashay away. These incidents don't happen too often, which is good!!
It's sad to refer to French people in this manner, but whatever, it is what it is, and I just have to navigate my way around. It's the only thing I can do.
Take care of yourselves and be your best you.
French trials and tribulations
Hello my darlings!
Today, I wanted to share with you an email I received recently.
I love receiving letters, I love reading about my fellow human's experiences living in France. I love to read their thoughts and opinions!
From the emails I have received, all positive, we share our stories about our French struggles and victories. Listen, living in France is no cake walk! It's hella hard! Why? Because according to doctors, 1 in every 5 French person is mentally ill. Let that marinate!
Check out this article by The Local.
Sometimes, I truly feel like an alien, like ET attempting to adapt to Earth while slowly dying. It's a lonely experience, depressing even, but like ET, there is magic.
We must remain kind, true to ourselves, and positive to help ourselves and our fellow humans to be better. I recently wrote a TOP 25 LIST of what I love about myself. Everyday, I read it and align myself with those positive affirmations to radiate goodness. You should do the same. Take some time for self reflection, journal writing, or doing one of your favorite activities. Focusing on what you love to do, will quell those homicidal thoughts!
So without further ado, meet Giuli. He took the time to write to me and has this to say:
I just came across your blog after typing on google “I hate France” hahah. I read some of your posts and I feel EXACTLY the same - and possibly worse since I’m in Paris. I am Italian and have also lived in the US. I had the disgraced idea of coming to Paris for work. I feel here many people are really disgusting, mean, frustrated, close minded etc... nothing works, everybody is so sloppy, nobody gives a shit, etc... ZERO I say ZERO Hygiene, zero safety, and let’s be honest, food is crap, unless you put your salary on a dinner - in which case you’ll have good food in ANY part of the world. Come to Italy if you wanna have good food. That said, I’ve known amazing French people, and my gf is also French (but she is the kind of French that hates France! ) As a contrast, I felt so good in the US, and I will get back there as soon as I have the chance - if ever. Anyway, thanks for writing that, it makes me feel less lonely in my thoughts.
Cheers to you, Giuli! Cheers to you!
His email is the first thing I read after waking up this Monday morning! Talk about putting me in a positive space! Thank you for reading, I appreciate it!
Have a great week and take care!
Style means being prepared
Today's post is about decluttering, reusing, recycling, organizing and reorganizing your armoire.
Spring is right around the corner, that means SPRING CLEANING!
My hope is to inspire you to reorder your closet. As the Equinox approaches, this is a time to also get balanced, allow Mother Nature to show you the way! Reordering your armoire is a great way to start your Spring cleaning.
Did you know that you only wear 20 percent of the clothes in your closet?
That means 80 percent of your clothes are just hanging there.
I work as a personal stylist, part of my job is to rearrange your closet to maximize your closet's potential. It's a two step process.
First, we will shop in your own closet to put together new outfits, pictures are taken, accessories are chosen, and your bag/briefcase organized. We will also get rid of outdated clothing, and donate the rest to charity.
The second step is a shopping spree. I am paid for my time to take you to the shops to purchase quality items that accentuate your features and assets.
My clients are serious, professional people, but don't want their look to be stern, but rather classy, and most of all, comfortable. Style and comfort is the goal.
Today, I'm giving you a sneak peak into my little armoire, I'll share some styling tips and tricks, and give you some food for thought.
I use wire hangers. Mommie Dearest would be so upset! But, I couldn't care less.
I love shopping as much as the next girl, I like to be well dressed, stylish, classy, yet comfortable, approachable, and elegant. I don't follow trends, I buy clothing that accentuates my assets, but doesn't distract from my features.
Most of my clothing has come from clothing exchanges, meaning they were given to me, or come from top notch second hand stores. I also love thrift store boutique shopping, I love to find little treasures and one of a kind pieces.
I recently reorganized my closet. It took a few hours, but I managed to sort it out.
My clothes are now organized by outfit, much like prepackage meals!
I choose it, put it on, I know it looks good, then five minutes later, I'm out the door.
I eliminated the "I've got nothing to wear" statement from my life!
Turns out, for a small closet, I have a lot of clothes! I made wise outfit choices, even adopted a 'uniform' outfit, to maximum time efficiency, as I am working hard at being on time.
I am a lazy person, but in order for me to be lazy, I must prepare to be lazy.
I want everything to be in place so my fingers can easily find what I'm looking for.
There is nothing more that I love doing than nothing itself. Sure, I have appointments to get to, but the quicker I'm out the door, the quicker I can get back to doing nothing! Maximum efficiency!
I also attempt to have keep a positive outlook on life, but I'm also smart enough to know that it takes action to remain positive. Being in a positive space, for me, means that I'm dressed well, I've put on my face, that I'm sleeping well, eating well, and taking care of myself. I make an effort to reflect positivity, so that positivity is reflected back at me.
As silly as it sounds, putting on a well fitted ensemble is the one of the first steps to making positive changes in your life. It takes the same amount of time to wear a frumpy outfit or a nice outfit, the difference is how you feel.
I know when I look pretty, professional, and comfortable in my clothing, I am ready to tackle the day. Looking frumpy makes you feel frumpy, period.
My little armoire is now well organized, everything is in its proper place, and easy to find. I decluttered as well, retiring 10 items. I also picked out accessories to enhance my ensembles.
The reason I decided to reorganize my closet was to maximize time.
As I mentioned above, I am attempting to be on time. I usually run 3 - 15 minutes behind schedule. I hate this about myself, but sometimes it can't be helped: weather conditions, public transportation problems, waking up late. It's a work in progress, but working on efficiency is never a waste. Now that my closet is organized, I feel a weight has been lifted from me, now, I'm not wasting time trying to find something to wear. Now, I pick, put on, get out! And that makes me happy!
I hope you take the time to reorganize your closet. Need help? That's my specialty.
Hiring a personal stylist, like me, will educate you, and that knowledge will serve you forever. Believe it!
Be positive. Take care. Dress well.
Cashew's Pet Project!
Hope all is well.
Today's post is all about Cashew.
If you lucky enough to have the unconditional love from a pet, I am beyond happy for you.
Loving a pet is a pure joy. There is nothing better. A pet doesn't are how much money you have in the bank, or about the car you drive, all they care are about is you. You are their whole world. Deserve their love.
We are not worthy to deserve animals, they are innocence personified, they are pure, they are love, they are all things good, they are God. How lucky are we to make our furry friends part of our family. I can't imagine my life without Cashew, and I know when she passes, it will be difficult, but the sting will be lessened as I KNOW I gave her a GREAT life.
I love animals. I would and could pet every pet out there! I want to know everything about your dog, cat, rabbit, chickens, rats, snakes. I want to know about their personality, their breed, their names, let's just say I NEED to know!
As I get older, I have to admit, I enjoy the presence of animals more than humans. Humans suck. No offense. But we do, if I had super sonic hearing, their sense of smell, their vision, their essence - I would be a GODDESS.
That's why I decided to start a business to pet as many animals as possible, and be paid for it!
CHOUCHOUTAGE MAISION is a pet sitting, walking and training service. I want to help people out, pamper their pet, be happy, and if I can do that while putting a little money in my pocket... MAZEL TOV!
If you are going on vacation or need a helping hand with your pet, I'm only a email away.
My pay rate is as follows:
25€ per day/cat
35€ per day/per dog
45€ per hour for training
Kiss your pets for me, and tell them I say Hi!
If you are in Bordeaux, look me up, Cashew and I would be happy to send some time with you!
I'm only an email away.
Take care of yourselves,
Beauty Rituals and a Recipe!
Today's post is about my Sunday spa day and rituals!
Every Sunday, I scrub, rub and oil up.
I also take the time to give myself a pedicure and manicure.
Sunday self care is a routine I've keep faithful to for years.
In the past, I have made my own beauty products, masks, and toners.
I am not a chemist, but a naturalist meaning I use whatever is around me, usually found in my kitchen, I'm not whipping up lipsticks or eyeshadows, though not hard to replicate, but I just don't.
I love long hot showers with lots of suds, I call it Cleopatra time, and I take the time to condition my hair, shave my legs, scrub between my toes, get into all the nooks and crevices to make sure I smell like a tropical island.
After I get out of the shower, I towel dry, then reach for my body lotion that contains glycerin, and slather it all over to improve elasticity. I then put on deodorant, I use a deodorant rock that seems to do the trick, no problems as of yet. Then spritz on my favorite French perfume before reaching my my daily lingerie and dressing robe.
Depending on ingredients in my kitchen, I usually give myself a coffee facial mask to exfoliate the dead skin cells off my visage and gives me a glow that can compete with the moon!
To make a coffee facial mask, you need the following ingredients: old coffee grounds, one egg, milk and honey.
Mix until a paste and apply to your face in a circular motion and leave on for 20-30 minutes, then hop in the shower to rinse off!
Your skin will be squeaky clean and fresh! I also saved you a trip to the esthetician, so spend that extra hundred bucks on yourself! Buy yourself a new outfit!
Do you have a self care ritual?
I hope I have given you ideas, make your next shower a spa treat! Just use your creativity and imagination, just take care of yourself, afterall, no one else will.
Life after 40 is all about maintenance, so take care of your meat muppet and nourish yourselves well. Drink water, eat colorful meals, and play.
Peace and be wild!
PS: I'm currently listening to Prince and Nicki Minaj, smoking a cigarette and drinking sparkling water. I'm trying to quit, I have diminished the number of smokes I inhale, but it's a process!
Hello sweetie darlings!
I recently hired a life coach. Why? For several reasons, I just needed another brain to get me out of my loops and time sucks.
We started last Friday, and so far, I have been doing what she has asked of me, but we've only just stared.
I'm not sure what to expect, other than to be taken out of my comfort zone.
We shall see what these next 10 sessions will bring, but in the meantime, I wanted to share with you one of the exercises she wanted me to do.
When she first proposed it, I thought it was a little stupid and didn't realize the point. Now, I do.
The homework assignment was to write a top 25 list of the things I like about myself.
Lame, right. At least I thought so. But it was an exercise of changing my thinking.
Instead of focusing on all the things I don't like about myself, here I was given the opportunity to really think about what I love about myself.
I thought it would be difficult, but after the first few things I wrote down, it started flowing and less than 15 minutes later, the assignment was completed.
So without further ado, here is my list. Maybe it will inspire you to make your own.
TOP 25 LIST OF WHAT I LOVE ABOUT MYSELF
I wrote down my love list on a nice sheet of paper, written down with a special pen.
As I was writing down my love list, a wash of emotions came over me, like little charges, I felt good. I felt happy. And content.
The love list follows me around everywhere, as it is kept in my agenda, which is one of the three staples I carry in my tote bag.
While getting ready to start my day, I take out my love list and read it out loud before leaving my house. It has become a daily pep talk to help me tackle the unknown. I like to read it while having my morning coffee.
Have you ever made a love list? How about a gratitude list?
I recently done both and I can tell you it helps get me out of my negative thought patterns and self deprecating humor. Maybe it will work for you? Try it, and let me know.
I will also keep you posted on my life coach therapy sessions, after all, everybody needs help!
Take care of yourselves, eat well, drink well, and all shall be well.
Bonjour et Bienvenue!
Thank you for stopping by for a spell!
I am a 40-something year old American woman. Born in Texas, raised in Las Vegas!
Frenchified for Life
is a fabulous little lifestyle blog about truly embracing French life!
My intent is to simply inspire you to create something unique and beautiful in your everyday life. The French have this wonderful and annoying habit of seeing the world through rose colored glasses, might as well learn something from them!
That said, I lift my glass to you!
By the way, I mention the name Cachou (or The Cash) a lot, I'm referring to her...